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Tips for Overcoming your Fear of Public Speaking (part 1)

Too often we make things bigger than they have to be, and that’s definitely the case with public speaking. It is still rated as the number one fear for North Americans, and many others around the world. That reputation has also fed this phobia to keep it at the top of the list.

From personal experience, here are a few aspects that contributed to my fear of public speaking:

• I didn’t want to sound like an idiot in front of other people.

• I convinced myself that I would forget everything I’d have to say once I got in front of my audience.

Today I love speaking in front of people, and it doesn’t matter the size of the crowd. Let me share with you a few tips I’ve learnt to help you conquer your fear of public speaking.

Preparation of Talk

Benjamin Franklin said, “Failure to prepare is preparing to fail”. When giving a “talk” (that’s how I like to refer to speeches of any kind) I prepare well in advanced for it. Even if you do not have the luxury of time there is a framework you can use to prepare your talk. Just like writing an essay, build an outline of your talk using the titles of Introduction, Main Body, and Conclusion. “Tell ‘em what you’re gonna say, say it, and tell ‘em what you said”, as the old adage goes, it’s just that simple.

In the Dale Carnegie course “Breakthrough to Success” I learnt to use plain language that everyone can understand. Many people feel the need to include big words or technical jargon to make their talk more impressive, but it doesn’t.

I was also encouraged to never write out my whole talk. Instead I remembered three or four key points that my talk was built around. This took a lot of the pressure off of me as I didn’t have to memorize every word and every line.

Each point was illustrated with a story that acted as an anchor in the audience’s mind and makes the talk extremely effective. Think about it, when you listen to someone give a “speech” to you what stood out in your mind. Aren’t memorable speeches covered with analogies, and stories that touch different emotions within us? Use the stories and analogies as bridges in your mind to connect you from one point to the next.

A key point to remember as well is no one knows every word you are going to say, so if you get stuck, draw a blank, or missed something just move on and no one will know. Don’t apologize either. Apologizing for missing something makes the situation more awkward for you and your audience.

Practice, Practice, Practice

It is how the good become great, and a few of the greats become legendary by practicing as much as possible. Knowing your material and practicing delivering it numerous times alleviates the majority of fear built up inside. I used many opportunities while I’m alone to go over my talk. It doesn’t have to be from start to finish every time, but it helps cement the points of your talk in your head. So when I’m driving, in the shower, or at my desk and I know I’m alone I just go over my talk. As time drew closer to delivering my talk I would then start timing it. It is difficult at first, but once you persevere the timing becomes easier, and it’s almost as if you have a countdown timer in your head. A small suggestion is if it’s a fifteen-minute talk you have to give, practice to finish 30 seconds or a minute earlier. No one likes to listen to a person that rambles on, and if your audience knows you allotted time, they’ll be checking their watches.

In part two of How I Overcame My Fear of Public Speaking And How You Can Too, I will discuss finding your authentic voice and delivery style for giving your talk. For now, remember these three points: one) it’s just a talk not a speech, two) write out three or four points you want your audience to remember, anchor them with stories and analogies that also act as bridges from one point to another, and three) practice, practice, practice!!

Brian Toppin

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What are the Self-Concept Factors & how do they effect personal development?

What are the self-concept factors? And how does each of these factors effect a person’s personal development positively and negatively?

Only you can answer that for yourself !

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Ep. 6: The Former Smokers Find New Motivation to SMOBER UP™

As the cigarette-free days begin to add up, the former smokers find their physical and emotional reactions running high. All agree that the new smober lifestyle isn’t easy –and by day 21, everyone’s having a tough time. Ray arranges a surprise to give the former smokers an extra push to stay motivated: a personal screening of short, emotion-packed films from family and friends, filled with inspirational messages and support. But will it work?

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Cosmosis™ Mentoring Introduction – Personal Spiritual Alchemy

The Cosmosis Mentoring Centre offers life coaching and mentoring with fully qualified professional mentors in a wide variety of fields of endeavour.

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Stop the Conflict and Get Back to Work

Tension in the workplace is difficult to manage and can make vital productive office time intolerable.   It is near impossible for an office to run effectively if key memebers of the organization are at such an impasse as to border upon a real fued.   The disruption must be stopped before it infects seemingly innocent workers.   When such a situation arrises what is a manager to do? What if both employees, aside form an obvious personal grudge against the other, are quite profiecent at what they do and don’t just show up for the cheap office supplies and coffee?  Does he/ she just arbitrarily decide to fire one over the other?  Assuming that the disgruntled parties cannot simply be relocated to another area because of limited space or the other, here is the moment that one must play the role of King Solomon and demonstrate wisdom in the face of adversity.

 Discussion is always step one and should be attempted immediately.     But as most of us alreay know, appealling to one’s sense of rationality is oftentimes not enough.  Both parties must be made to sit down and intelligibly convey their issues with each other with an arbitrator present.  If the conversation begins to take on a more personal angle, the intercessor must refocus the session back to a work related issue.  perchance, this process will  drill drown effectively enough into the root cause as to produce a measure of understanding.  This is not to suggest that once an individual recognizes the source of his/ her displeasure it evaporates, but it does create a strong cornerstone upon which to build. 

Keeping in mind that work must not be made to suffer, the objective is to find an area of agreement that will create an environment conducive to professional conduct.  Allowing others to voice their concerns is acceptable.   Often when an individual is confronted by another directly impacted by the immaturity of their offensive behavior, it is enough to induce the offender back into the fold.

Although appearing a bit childish to some level, rewards for correct conduct should not be immediately dismissed. Perhaps a better parking spot or some other small reward for good behavior would have a tremendous impact.  Furthermore, penalty for undesirable behavior or failure to resolve a conflict professionally is still satisfactory but truly great results form this methodology are not as impressive.   Threats generally create animosity and it is this negativity that you are trying to eliminate.  Therefore, lean towards the positive reinforcement approaches.

An unconventional method  that has been effectively employed by some, is to video tape the exchanges between the disagreeing workers.  Most people are embarrassed when they witness their childish behavior in action.  Witnessing inappropriate video taped behavior could be enough to produce a real breakthrough.   Tossing office supplies, yelling, and ignoring the other are all sobering events when viewed through the unsympathetic eye of a camera lens.  I’ve seen this used.  It has worked.  

Business is fragile enough during these trying difficult economic times and therefore does not require the assistance of an upset employee for an even greater obstacle for your company to climb. Instead, business must pool every ounce of energy it can muster in the form of individual capital and channel it on creating sustainable growth.  In order to accomplish this, often a competitive environment that fosters healthy competition is the essential ingredient for tumultuous workers to focus any emotions.   Foster a competitive atmosphere by developing an “us against the world” mentality. 

Eliminating conflict entirely may not be possible, but through discussion, team member input, video evidence, rewards, and competition, it can be minimized and a great work environment restored.

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Tips To Get Bus Stop Shuffle

ople just standing there, moving around Some making sounds others sitting on the ground Watching, waiting, walkman music in their ears Anticipation developing, smoking, puffing Inhaling and exhaling shallow breath Frustrating at time regarding the dynamics At the bus stop; it’s running late for work
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4 Systemische Fragen im Business Coaching

Die 4 systemische Fragen im Coaching. Thomas Menthe von Emrich Consulting Tübingen.
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The 5 Key Roles of a Christian Life Coach

Christopher McCluskey defines the key roles of the Christian Life Coach.

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Careapist & Coaching

What is a Careapist and what do you do as a Careapist and Life Coach?

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Business Coach on Hidden Assets to Grow Your Income | Business Coach, Wealth Coach and International Best-selling Author William R. Patterson share insights on how to turn your hidden assets into wealth.

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